Men Chase. Women Choose.

Starr Cochran

Don’t do it!

I see your fingers poised over the text screen of the guy who has been rocking your world. He’s the one. You had the most amazing connection. OMG! Check, check, check on everything you were looking for in a partner to share your life with. The sex was great. The two of you were so good together. Like Hallmark movie kind of good. You may not have said the L word out loud, but there was a lot of pre-L going on.

Then days go by. Nothing. No “good morning.” No “how’s your day going.” No “good night; sweet dreams.” WTF?

I know you want to reach out to him. Text…call… 

Don’t do it!

There’s nothing you can say that won’t come off as needy and there’s nothing he can say that’s going to make you feel better. Trust me. I’ve done this “I said/he said” exercise in my head enough to know it just doesn’t play out well. 

There are hundreds of reasons why he went dark, and the bottom line is: it doesn’t matter. It’s not about you; it’s about him – his life, his feelings, his whatever – all of which you can’t do anything about. 

What you can do is take care of yourself – do something physical, get a makeover, buy a new sex toy, meditate, read…hell, boo-boo your way through as many romantic comedies as it takes to keep you from texting him. 

If it’s meant to be, then it will be, and it’ll be because he chased you and you will have chosen him.

And if it’s not meant to be, swipe to the left and see who pops up on your screen.