Starr Cochran

Love and sex evolve as we age so since I’m back dating at this certain age I thought perhaps this would be a good venue for exploring the many facets of this complicated subject.

I realized not long ago that if someone had a question or situation of a rather delicate nature, who would they ask? Friends? Depending how delicate, the fear of judgment or shock or in total misalignment with their values may keep the inquiry to themselves. A professional? Therapist? Medical doctor? Oh, there’s always Google. Good for the mechanical stuff, but speaking to a person’s specifics, not so much.

When it comes to matters of the heart, no matter how old we are, we can always revert to our early dating behavior. On more than one occasion I have found myself blushing and babbling like a schoolgirl, anxious about not getting a call, fidgeting through the awkwardness, etc. And a broken heart still hurts like hell.

What is different at this time in our lives is that we’ve had decades of life, love, children, spouses, houses, jobs, and so has the person who may be a potential partner. We’ve all had many experiences that have shaped who we are and damn it, getting all that to mesh into any sort of relationship can be challenging, although not impossible. (I’m the perpetual optimistic.)

Then there’s the sex. I have lots to say on that subject, but for now let me just state the obvious – nothing’s like it was. It looks different; equipment behaves differently; and yet some of us still want that in our lives. How does that work?

I’d like to offer this venue as your safe place to ask those awkward questions and talk about those uncomfortable topics if you don’t find a post that speaks to your situation.

I’ve been online dating on and off for more than a few years so I’ve learned a few things which I hope will help you. And as you may note in my bio, I have a degree in counseling, but I am not a licensed therapist. My advice here is based solely on my experiences.

So let’s learn from one another and help each other out as we maneuver through love and sex at this certain age.